When you relax 'This', you start to see 'That' - from a state of stable inner calmness and equanimity.
True Connection starts with making contact, and making contact is about stabilizing your expanding awareness and receptivity. The emphasis is on getting to a state of true receptivity. In these 3 days you surrender to 'that' and you don't give in to the tense 'this': 'what 'I want & what I don't want'. You allow yourself to dissolve your mental projections, your feelings about what you want and don't want, and your thoughts about what you know.
Dissolving the push and pull, and wearing out habits, opinions and beliefs is relaxing 'This'.
When you relax 'this' - 'I want', it is possible for you to break through the barrier which consists of what you know and what you think about your see. The dissovling and relaxing creates space within where you can experience things as they are.
When you see things as they are, you discover 'THAT'. 'That' is the ever-present presence, that is always and already there. 'THAT' can literally be anything; sand-ness, tree-ness, person-ness, hair-ness, water-ness. You begin to see and feel the richness of visual qualities, the nature of your perceptions.
True perception, true connection and deep, unbridled seeing is on the other side of hot boredom.
Let your tender heart speak instead of giving in to restlessness and boredom. No matter where you are, when you feel you have seen it all, instead of detaching yourself from resistance and avoiding the discomfort there is a quality of waiting, forcing yourself to just stay with it and stay with yourself until you give up wanting anything special or entertaining. You give up your interest in the highlights. The invitation for you here is to become open and raw. You give up your ideas and beliefs about your favorite version of the world and let your tender heart speak.